I don’t remember the exact moral topic up for discussion that day, nor do I remember what subject the class was covering. What I remember quite vividly, however, is how confident I was when I looked my childhood friend in the eye and spoke the words that I’ve wished to take back for nearly a decade, “I feel sorry for you.”
We had grown up in the same neighborhood, attended the same church, and generally were taught to believe in the same things. The only problem was that on this occasion her point of view different from mine and I was sure that my opinion was not only the right one, but the only point of view that someone was allowed to hold and still be a Christian. Basically, I was so self-justified in my position (and so dumbfounded by the fact that she would even consider the other side of the argument) that I was sure that she had crept out onto a slippery ledge that would ultimately lead to eternal damnation of her soul. Only problem; I was WRONG.
I’ve since come to realize that the moral high ground from which I was judging her (and her opinion) was based on an inaccurate world view. Fortunately for my friend, she had already grown past that world view (she always did seem to be more mature than the rest of us).Â Thankfully, I’ve continued to grow and have seen my perspective open up to many new and exciting possibilities.
I keep that story close to me as a reminder of the fact that I should always be slow to judge. Humility has a way of keeping you from being trapped by your own blindness. It’s also a good way to keep friends.